As yu should know I'm 17. Yes, SEVENTEEN. The man in this situation is 20. Yes, TWENTY. Now I'm only three years his junior and I understand that is a small amount but significant. This guy and I have known each other by face for a few years but recently just found a new friendship. He works fulltime but next semester will be attending GA State majoring in Criminal Justice.He has his own car,two in fact, a nice paying job, and has a wonderful family. Well my last post was about him. Yes this is the man shocked I asked him out. Well in preparing for our rendezvous, I asked my father if I could go out. Since yu don't personally know my father I'll give yu a little insight. REG is a complex man, very driven, intelligent, creative, protective, an all around good family man who's willing to do and give anything for me. He asked for a little background info on the man I was ATTEMPTING to go out with. With little hesitation I shared his name, personality,how we met, but was slow to fork over the age but I did. His face held no expression but I knew he was thinking like WTF?!? He told me he'd get back to me, I was just hoping he'd say yes. We'd talked about me dating over my age bracket before and he had mafe it seem like no problem. One because he'd dated older and my mother his more than 5 years his senior. Second, He's very much like me. Third, I thought he'd be more understanding. Well the next day his verdict was no. Yes,No. He told me his reasons why....Wanna hear??
- #1. He's 20.
- #2.We're in different phases of our lives.
- #3. Stat Rape... we're kinda iilegal.
Well to debate my point for #1. I've been out with guys older than me,18,19, even a 21 year old once but he's a friend. 20 and I were just going out as friends so I didn't see anything wrong with it. For #2, Yes we are in different phases of our lives but so are thousands of other people who are in relationships with people over and under their own age. As for #3, I went straight to the rule books.
16-6-3 G*** CODE SECTION *** 12/03/0116-6-3.(a) A person commits the offense of statutory rape when he or sheengages in sexual intercourse with any person under the age of 16years and not his or her spouse, provided that no conviction shallbe had for this offense on the unsupported testimony of the victim.(b) A person convicted of the offense of statutory rape shall bepunished by imprisonment for not less than one nor more than 20years; provided, however, that if the person so convicted is 21years of age or older, such person shall be punished by imprisonmentfor not less than ten nor more than 20 years; provided, further,that if the victim is 14 or 15 years of age and the person soconvicted is no more than three years older than the victim, suchperson shall be guilty of a misdemeanor.
Well, this didn't persuade him. As any girl feeling defeated to the fullest I buckled, ran to my room and cried. I'm not one that cries often especially over things like this. After drying my eyes I called my best friend.She keeps me sane. Telling her the horrible news, she asked me how do i feel. I couldn't help but say," defeated, hurt, and angry." She was speechless that daddy had told me no and she couldn't say anything because she'd never been in this situation. I told her I'd be ok and got off the phone to face my fate. I texted him and told him give a call right away. About an hour later he called, tired and worn out ready to chill with me. I told him it was something I had to tell him even though I'd rather do it face to face. He was in the car and it was loud,as bad as I wanted to tell him I couldn't at least not then. So we got off the phone and decided to pick up later. As he got home he sent a text asking me what was my curfew, Thats when I broke the news. He was understanding but I knew his feelings were slightly hurt. We cut our conversation shorter than usual. Immediately, I knew things wouldn't be the same.
Can yu answer these three questions,Is age really nothing but a number?
Does a few years difference change a relationship if everything else is there?
Can we really be friends and hang out or is it impossible due to ones age difference?
RaiOut
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